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Anela is once again happy as we've settled back into our routines, and so I don't have much of excitement to share with you about her. Life is GOOD!

However, I'd love to share this cool item I discovered online. It's for refined, discriminating cats such as Anela, aka Queenie. I think I might possibly have found a way for her to get interested in my blogging and computer world which she has always disdained.

This item is called Kit-In Box--basically a cat perch near your computer which allows your cat to watch what you're doing and to correct you if you're making mistakes or whatever else you're probably doing not to their liking.

Click here for the link.

In life there are certain things that you have to be right about — fact. When you’re performing open heart surgery, nursing a baby, racing at 180 miles per hour, or landing a passenger plane you need to be right. Being wrong would be a catastrophe. What I consider just as important as human life are the relationships that we have with other people.

However, despite being of equal value, life and relationships are not necessarily appreciated in quite the same respect. A person might be terrified of picking up a gun and killing another human being, even in self defense, but have no problem ignoring their mother for 30 years. A person may be against killing people even in video games, but keeps arguing with their spouse over ice cream for weeks on end.

There is clearly an imbalance. Why bother to care about human life if we don’t appreciate and nurture the relationships with those that are alive? I’m not suggesting to balance this out by starting to care just as little about human life. What i’m suggesting is that we become conscious of what our relationships really mean to us.

If you think about it, you really do value the people in your life. You value your family for being your family, your friends for being like your family but by choice, and your co-workers for putting up with you. The best way to show them that they matter, is by appreciating them and creating workability within the relationship.

“Whenever you’re in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.”
~William James

8 Tips To Create Workability in Relationships

1. Love them. I’m not talking about the word ‘love’, i’m talking about the action. However you think it is appropriate to show someone you love them, so that they will have no doubt in their mind that you do, is the best way to do this. Saying I love you is important, but it’s important to follow through.
2. Listen attentively. Without waiting for your turn to talk, just listen, and ask questions (and then more questions) about what they’re saying to you. When I’m on the phone I like to close my eyes and listen to people so that I’m not being distracted by anything else. The attention is appreciated.
3. Forget Right. If you know in the bottom of your heart that you’re right and they’re wrong, it doesn’t mean you have to prove that to anyone. Consider that if you do prove them wrong they will me embarrassed, feel guilty, or resent you. It’s much easier to just drop it.
4. Acknowledge wrong. When you’re wrong, and we all are at one point or another (many times a day), it is important to just acknowledge that you are wrong. Clean up the mess and reclaim the integrity in your word. It’s not that words are cheap, it’s that people make words cheap, so make your word mean something.
5. No criticism. It’s always easy to criticize someone. This is a super-sensitive subject because you want to avoid causing someone embarrassment or providing criticism without a solution. Your criticism might also be not needed, not wanted, or unappreciated. If I see someone is harming other people in their life, I’ll ask if it’s okay for me to give them a constructive criticism, and only then will I proceed.
6. Don’t Interpret. What people do, all of us, is make an interpretation of what information means when we experience it with our senses. If your friend isn’t being very talkative you start to assume that they’re mad at you, or they’re tired. You may react by getting mad at them or being sad for them. What makes sense is to find out, by asking the person, what’s going on, or what they meant when they said something.
7. Do Not Embarrass. In the Jewish religion, and I’m not sure about other religions, it is considered that embarrassing someone is like killing their soul. After I heard that, I never ever wanted to embarrass someone again. It makes sense practically - nothing good ever comes out of embarrassing someone.
8. No Guilt Trips. Making someone guilty is not necessarily going to make them change their ways. They may very well think that you are a malicious person and get very defensive.

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